You are beautiful

There comes  a time when we  feel a little insecure about ourselves.  Even the sexiest or the prettiest people  we know have some down time too.

I’ve been through all of that, when dolling up, wearing nice clothes and sexy stilettos doesn’t make any wonders at all to change my mood. Believe me, I usually ended up wearing my favorite robe, watching movies at home and chill.

I’d come to realized  that everybody has its own gratification of beauty. None the less, most of us doesn’t even bother to work on that and cultivate ourselves to be one.

The good thing is we don’t actually need to put a lot of effort to be like everybody else. Why? Because in the first place, we don’t need to. Everyone of us is special and has its own uniqueness.

We are beautiful in our own ways.

If we feel beautiful then we are beautiful, if we think we are beautiful then we are beautiful. It is a state of mind.

Sometimes, insecurities lead us to focus more on the areas that  needs improvement. All we need to do is to navigate negativity in to positivity to makes us a better person.

Lets embrace being ourselves, nobody is perfect and nobody has got to be . Perfection is boring and boring is a dead man. You don’t wanna be a dead man, right?

Life is a trial and error, everybody sucks and make mistakes everyone of us has been into a couple of troubles. Some people got stagnant and some already  moved on. Who are you there?

Beauty is really broad, some people think that beauty is limited to how the way you look, some limits it how witty, wealthy, confident or extravagant you live your life or how good looking is your BF or GF. But for me beauty is the way you handle the difficulties but at the same time you manage to present yourself as a happy person.

Beauty is when you know when to stand up for what you believe in and yet know how to give up for something. It is how you know when to let go of your greatest possession for the benefits of others and for the love of yourself.

“YOU CANT MAKE ANYONE LOVE YOU UNLESS YOU LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.”

Do you like listen to love songs?

Sometimes they're fun, right? Some songs can remind us of our own experiences, letting us relive the joy and the pain of relationships past.

There's just one problem about listening to love songs -- sometimes we take the lyrics as doctrine truth.

Lyrics like, "I'll do anything for you," "I love you more than you'll ever know," and "I'm down on my knees, begging you please come home" give us the idea that TRUE LOVE is all about loving our boyfriends more than we love ourselves.

Which is silly!

You can't give love unless you have it in YOU, first.

And when you love a person, you can only love them to the extent of how much you love yourself.

If you love yourself a lot, then you can love that person a LOT.

But if you don't love yourself, then believe me, you won't love him/her, either.

I can already hear some of you saying, "Kimmy, violent objection. I DO love my Boo more than I love myself. And he/she  makes me very happy in return. How come my relationship is working out?"

Trust me, if your relationship works out FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, I'd like to hear from you again. It'll be the first!

“YOU CANT MAKE ANYONE LOVE YOU UNLESS YOU LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.”

Friends, read this carefully….

You'll need to stop depending on men OR women -- or ANYONE ELSE -- for your own happiness.

Your happiness is YOUR job.

It's YOUR job to grow into a strong, independent, optimistic person. It's YOUR job to make things happen in your life. It's YOUR job to enjoy good relationships with everyone  you meet.

I'll say it again -- everything starts with YOU.

Unless you value, love, and grow yourself, no one else will.

So all you need to do is to develop the right mindset, the right skills, and the right state of mind to handle a relationship correctly -- and even SAVE it when the need arises.

3 Lies All Men Tell

In today's article, we'll talk about the
three tell-tale signs that he's lying to
you.


Lying Sign #1 - When He Asks A Lot About
You, But He Doesn't Talk Much About
Himself.

Does he know a LOT about you, but you
don't know much about him?

Does he tend to avoid your personal
questions, or does he just give vague
descriptions of his life?

Is he still a big mystery to you, even
after you've dated for a while?

Be careful -- if he asks a lot of
questions about you, but at the same
time avoids answering questions about
himself and his lies, then he's probably
hiding something.

And when he's hiding something, it's
usually not good news!

Lying Sign #2 - When The Relationship
Starts Out TOO Well.

I know all relationships get off on a
fantastic note. It's like buying a car
-- the "new car smell" can be pretty
addicting!

But when you feel the relationship
started out TOO well -- as though it was
too good to be true -- then be careful.
You might be unwittingly playing into
his twisted game.

Some guys out there are GREAT at finding
our weak spots. They easily find what
makes us tick, allowing them to attack
our weaknesses and leave us vulnerable.


So be careful if the relationship starts
out a little too well. Take it slow, and
make sure you do a quiet background
check on the guy. It could save your
life!

Lying Sign #3 - When You THINK He's
Lying.

Have you ever had the feeling that he's
PROBABLY lying about something, but you
can't put your finger on it?

How many times have you dismissed the
idea, telling yourself that you're just
being paranoid?

Be careful -- it could be your INTUITION
speaking. And our woman's intuition is
one of Mother Nature's biggest gifts to
us!

It's the same intuition that tells us
what a guy's personality is like even
before he says a word. It's the same
intuition that tells us which of the men
you meet have the hots for you.

And it's the same intuition that raises
red flags in shady situations!

Trust me, your intuition is a POWERFUL
tool. And when you hone it correctly, it
can keep you from ending up with the
worst kinds of men -- and, at the same
time, it can lead you closer to the men
who are actually READY and WILLING to
take care of you!

So whenever your intuition tells you to
step lightly, heed it. Paranoia is never
good, but in a dangerous situation, it's
better to be paranoid than at risk!

It Can Happen To Anyone!

It's a discouraging fact, but while the
number of emotionally-unavailable single
men out there keeps growing, the number
of liars keep growing, too. So the
dating game will likely always remain a
challenge. Good Luck! :)

In today's article, we'll talk about the
three tell-tale signs that he's lying to
you.


Lying Sign #1 - When He Asks A Lot About
You, But He Doesn't Talk Much About
Himself.

Does he know a LOT about you, but you
don't know much about him?

Does he tend to avoid your personal
questions, or does he just give vague
descriptions of his life?

Is he still a big mystery to you, even
after you've dated for a while?

Be careful -- if he asks a lot of
questions about you, but at the same
time avoids answering questions about
himself and his lies, then he's probably
hiding something.

And when he's hiding something, it's
usually not good news!

Lying Sign #2 - When The Relationship
Starts Out TOO Well.

I know all relationships get off on a
fantastic note. It's like buying a car
-- the "new car smell" can be pretty
addicting!

But when you feel the relationship
started out TOO well -- as though it was
too good to be true -- then be careful.
You might be unwittingly playing into
his twisted game.

Some guys out there are GREAT at finding
our weak spots. They easily find what
makes us tick, allowing them to attack
our weaknesses and leave us vulnerable.


So be careful if the relationship starts
out a little too well. Take it slow, and
make sure you do a quiet background
check on the guy. It could save your
life!

Lying Sign #3 - When You THINK He's
Lying.

Have you ever had the feeling that he's
PROBABLY lying about something, but you
can't put your finger on it?

How many times have you dismissed the
idea, telling yourself that you're just
being paranoid?

Be careful -- it could be your INTUITION
speaking. And our woman's intuition is
one of Mother Nature's biggest gifts to
us!

It's the same intuition that tells us
what a guy's personality is like even
before he says a word. It's the same
intuition that tells us which of the men
you meet have the hots for you.

And it's the same intuition that raises
red flags in shady situations!

Trust me, your intuition is a POWERFUL
tool. And when you hone it correctly, it
can keep you from ending up with the
worst kinds of men -- and, at the same
time, it can lead you closer to the men
who are actually READY and WILLING to
take care of you!

So whenever your intuition tells you to
step lightly, heed it. Paranoia is never
good, but in a dangerous situation, it's
better to be paranoid than at risk!

It Can Happen To Anyone!

It's a discouraging fact, but while the
number of emotionally-unavailable single
men out there keeps growing, the number
of liars keep growing, too. So the
dating game will likely always remain a
challenge. Good Luck! :)

Amor Vincit Omnia - Love Conquers All.

Amor Vincit Omnia - Love Conquers All.

How true is that statement? Can a little ingredient of love make any difference in your relationships with others? I believe so. So how can it really?

Let’s look at the definition of love first.

I came up with my own, after considering a number of factors: Love is the tenderness that we feel for somebody; the genuine concern about their welfare; and the desire for them to succeed and be happy. Love puts self out of sight, and hopes for the betterment of the loved subject even at the expense of the lover.

It means that love is the thing which gives meaning to life, and it can overcome great obstacles to accomplish its purpose.

It means that no matter what happens, if you are truly in love, you will get through it. It means the same as 'love overcomes all obstacles.'


Yes, love conquers all things. If the world showed only a little love, just a little more love, we could solve nearly all our problems. No one would have more than the other, because we would all share. No one would despise each other because we would all love each other. No one would insist on his own way, because we would all put the other first. No one would war against the other, because we would not want to hurt anyone.

Yes, love conquers all things, and no one would really understand it unless they fall in love.

How to spot if you're Dating a Gold Digger?

I got plenty of emails coming from guys asking if I could write some thoughts coming from a lady's point of view. Most of my blogs in the past are certainly pointed about how us girls would be irresistable and attractive to guys eyes. So just to give our guy readers a brieft hints about how girls think I answered a question comin from one of our readers.

"how do we know if girls are after us and not just after money?"

You can tell if someone likes you if they show that they care about what you are feeling. They will really listen to your needs and issues. If they are just using you they will basically act as if they have nothing and depend on you for everything.

Please keep in mind guys that there’s a different between a gold digger and a girl with a taste for the finer things in life…. Ok so let me break it down to you

Gentlemen, Please pay attention to this type of girls that you might encounter on a date.

Gold Digger :

- Generally, they are the type who prefer to wear Prada, but for the life of them, couldn't tell you how to spell it. They're not ashamed to flaunt their high profile status and alert you up front that you "have to pay to play" aside from the fact that her favorite phrase goes something like "my coochie is always dressed in Gucci!"

"Gold diggers

are often charismatic and know how to give the person they desire exactly what he needs until the well runs dry. Then, they split leaving the person who's been paying their way high, dry and emotionally hurt. So how does a guy avoid getting one as a girlfriend? " Check if youre girlfriend is...

“Your girlfriend has never dated a "regular" Joe. “

“Your girlfriend is only interested in materialistic activities.”

-        Yeah, I know. Bummer right? 

Don’t worry guys karmas a bitch,, in the end they get whats coming, to bad we cant see it when it happens..

Girl with a taste for the finer things in life I called them “Miss Independent”.

-        This type of girls are totally different to a Gold digger, They have class and style they don’t ask for anyone’s help and have dignity for themselves. This girls don’t actually care about social standard or social ladder because this girls are more focus in their career compare to those Gold diggers who use social activities to catch big fishes.

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-        "She doesn’t expect you to take her out to dinner every night, a home cooked meal is always a nice bonding. She Appreciate when you surprise her with her favorite Starbucks drink when she gets up in the morning. This girl prepare special occasions than materialistic activities."

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This type of woman believes in equality -- not one of the radical man-haters, or the hypocritical pseudo-feminists who think that equality means "I demand equal rights and an equal salary, but a man still has to pay for me." They genuinely like men, and understand that equality means equality across the board, from holding the door open to fighting on the front lines. They believe that a relationship should be a 50/50 partnership, and are more than willing to shoulder their half of the responsibilities and dating expenses.

-        She also has a real life of her own and is happily going in her own positive direction. She's the type who wants a man in her life, but doesn't need a man in her life. And she certainly isn't looking for men to solve all her problems or blame when things don't go her way. 

-        So I hope you already figured out what kind of girl you are dating now. Goodluck and I hope it helps. J  

How to Make Him Love You

Today, we'll talk about the 4 buttons
you'll need to push to make a man want
you, even if you're only talking for the
first time or sitting down for your
first date.


After all, it's the first impression
that lasts the longest -- let's make it
count!


Here we go with Button #1:


BUTTON #1 - LOOKING GOOD FOR HIM


Ever heard of the phrase, "A picture
paints a thousand words?"


That's very true, especially in the
dating game!


The first "picture" he sees of you --
that's when he sees you for the first
time -- will "talk" to him long before
you actually say your first words to
him!


You don't have to look the best, by the
way -- just look the best you can
possibly be.


BUTTON #2 - BE A FIRST-RATE VERSION OF
YOURSELF


Here's another interesting button to
push...


In the real world, men are used to the
usual fakery that comes in the dating
game and the Internet.


They've met their fair share of women
who lie about their age, their jobs,
their plans for the future, etc., just
to be loved.


But if you present yourself as YOURSELF
-- with absolutely nothing to hide, and
nothing to be ashamed of -- then it's a
breath of fresh air for him!


It might actually catch him by surprise,
leaving him wondering if you're "for
real!"


All of a sudden, he's not going to see
you as a "one-night-stand" girl, but a
possible partner for the long term.


And if he's ready for a real
relationship, he's going to stick around
and try to find out!


BUTTON #3 - BELIEVE IN YOURSELF


Sure, you may not be the richest girl on
the block.


You may not be the prettiest or the
sexiest, and you may not know too much
about fashion.


That's okay!


You'll need a "secret weapon."


This "secret weapon" is actually the
great equalizer in the dating game.


With it, you don't have to be the
richest, prettiest, sexiest, or smartest
girl around -- but you'll still make the
men around you WANT YOU all to
themselves.


What is this "great equalizer?"


You might be surprised -- it's actually
very simple.


It's CONFIDENCE!


Ever noticed how the most confident men
out there are also the most attractive?


It doesn't seem to matter if they're not
the tallest, richest, or best-looking --
their confidence literally BECKONS to
you to come closer and say "Hi!"


Well, guess what? It works both ways!


Men ALSO zoom into women who are strong,
confident, and independent.


They like being with a woman who can
take care of herself -- after all, it's
a lot more fun to have a
"low-maintenance" girlfriend than one
who BEGS for their support!


So when you're not ashamed of yourself
-- when you're confident enough to just
go out there and NOT care what other
people think of you -- it's a major
plus!


It pushes all the right buttons on the
men you meet. When men know you're
living a fabulous life, you can bet
they'll want to be a part of it!


BUTTON #4 - JUST HAVE FUN


During first dates, many of us make the
mistake of wondering, "Is he the one?"


And we end up becoming a nervous wreck
throughout the date, making sure we're
saying and doing all the right things,
making sure he'll LIKE us.


Of course, that never works. Men aren't
dumb, and they can tell you're putting
on a show.


So don't make the mistake -- just lay
back, have fun, and focus on having a
great time with him.


Talk!


Listen!


Tease!


Joke!


Flirt!


If you keep things light and fun for
him, he's going to be VERY interested in
a second date!


Here's the sad statistic -- whenever you
date a new single guy, chances are he's
not ready to handle a real relationship.
(There are more players than
boyfriend-material guys out there, after
all.)


So don't focus on the "future" -- just
make the most out of the "now!"


When he realizes he absolutely LOVES
spending time with you, he might
actually MAN UP for you -- and start
courting. Congratulations!


Ladies, I just taught you four of the
most important buttons to push in the
men you meet. These buttons are meant to
turn them from being UNINTERESTED to
being VERY INTERESTED indeed! So Goodluck! :D

I'll see you soon

I really love this song so much it reminds me of something that I went through. I lost my trust to someone that I trusted a lot but I know I never should have. Now, its too late for me to get him back. I've learned my lesson.... but its sad that it needs to go through like this...

I've learned that I need to hold on to what I believed in to stay happy, I dont know if that's right but that is something that I've found out... but its too late. You have the power to choose weather you like and stay happy or be realistic and embrace the reality of bitterness and truth.

I've learned that the only thing to be happy is to stay in the present, dont look at the past or the future but stay right in the present.

I've learned that sometimes we need to be blind folded if we wants to stay happy and eliminate those negative thoughts that going your way....

I've learned that in just one mistake we can lose the one we love for the rest of our lives...

I got so much things to learn and im glad I am growing and  getting stronger everytime I face a situation like this... I never regret anything and everything that happened. I am very thankful that there are more people who actually brought more joy and happiness in my life than those who brought pain and heartaches.

I am Liberal

I was raised a conservative and held conservative views for quite a while. However, I also have a rebellious side that always wants to break away from restrictive rules and societal norms, and seek freedom. Over time that side of me won and I now have more liberal views mostly on social issues.

As a conservative I was very uptight about things and sometimes got upset when I saw people behave in ways that were not acceptable to society. Now I'm very open minded, relaxed, tolerant, patient, and fun loving.

I'm all about enjoying life. I tend to disregard societal taboos and rules which serve no purpose other than to impose the views and beliefs of the majority. So I'm a social liberal and live a carefree lifestyle that would fit into the term Bohemian although I'm not an artist. I believe you should be able to do anything you like as long as you don't hurt others or yourself. However, as you should realize, that takes a lot of personal responsibility.

Just to give a couple of examples; to me it's cool to dress like a hippie,go barefoot, wear a nose string or get a tattoo etc. but what about doing drugs or having multiple sexual partners? Before engaging in any of those, you should ask the question: will your behavior harm yourself or other people? And you should think long term too.

There is one area where I'm still conservative, and that's when it comes to protecting myself, my family, and my country. Although I'm tolerant, I have no sympathy for terrorists, mass murderers, child or spouse abusers, and the likes.

Note: all the above are MY views based on MY experiences. Yours may be different and that's fine. No one can always agree on everything and that's cool!

Again, this is not all about politics, so when I use the terms liberal and conservative I'm not necessarily referring to the political parties. So keep that in mind as you voice your opinions below.

“It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day-to-day basis” ~ Margaret Bonnano

I am so tired of love stories that don't end with "happily ever after". I know that everyone says that's something made up by Disney, it never happens, blah, blah, blah . . . but if we all know it's not realistic and it's not going to happen to us, what's the harm in reading about it?

I finally read Gone With the Wind. I know, it's so weird that I had never read it before. In fact, maybe I have and I just forget? No matter. The point is, I LOVED it. It was a wonderful book. It pulled me in and I couldn't put it down. I haven't had that sort of relationship with a new book in a very long time. It was wonderful. I tried to read as slow as I could so that the feeling could last.

***don't read further if you plan to read this book***

Although Scarlett's life was full of disappointed love and fruitless marriages, I remained convinced that in the end all would work out and she would live happily ever after. After all, Gone with the Wind is known for being a wonderful epic romance. But in the end, Scarlett is left ALONE. She finally realizes she's in love Rhett, after he no longer gives "a damn". I know it's supposed to end upliftingly with the last lines "After all, tomorrow is another day." but that's not the point! It's supposed to be a romance. No one cares that Scarlett is going to be able to live her life alone, we want her to get together with Rhett! The only thing that kept me reading was the hope that one day she would realize she loved Rhett and they would like happily ever after!

After a month, I decided to give romance another try with Forever Amber. Published 8 years after Gone With the Wind, it was not quite as gripping, but still highly entertaining and followed a similar pattern. Girl is young and falls in love with man. Convinces herself she's in love with him, and spend rest of book trying to be with him. Not remembering my past disappointment, I read on, concluding that in the end, Amber would end up with Bruce. But it never happened. Not only did the book not bring Amber and Bruce into the realm of happily ever after, I got the feeling that the book never actually ended! It's as if Kathleen Winsor simply got tired of writing so she stopped.

Well, enough ranting and raving. I actually would recommend both those novels highly. Just not to anyone looking for romance in their lives.