Sometimes they're fun, right? Some songs can remind us of our own experiences, letting us relive the joy and the pain of relationships past.
There's just one problem about listening to love songs -- sometimes we take the lyrics as doctrine truth.
Lyrics like, "I'll do anything for you," "I love you more than you'll ever know," and "I'm down on my knees, begging you please come home" give us the idea that TRUE LOVE is all about loving our boyfriends more than we love ourselves.
Which is silly!
You can't give love unless you have it in YOU, first.
And when you love a person, you can only love them to the extent of how much you love yourself.
If you love yourself a lot, then you can love that person a LOT.
But if you don't love yourself, then believe me, you won't love him/her, either.
I can already hear some of you saying, "Kimmy, violent objection. I DO love my Boo more than I love myself. And he/she makes me very happy in return. How come my relationship is working out?"
Trust me, if your relationship works out FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, I'd like to hear from you again. It'll be the first!
“YOU CANT MAKE ANYONE LOVE YOU UNLESS YOU LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.”
Friends, read this carefully….
You'll need to stop depending on men OR women -- or ANYONE ELSE -- for your own happiness.
Your happiness is YOUR job.
It's YOUR job to grow into a strong, independent, optimistic person. It's YOUR job to make things happen in your life. It's YOUR job to enjoy good relationships with everyone you meet.
I'll say it again -- everything starts with YOU.
Unless you value, love, and grow yourself, no one else will.
So all you need to do is to develop the right mindset, the right skills, and the right state of mind to handle a relationship correctly -- and even SAVE it when the need arises.
