Understanding A Man's Sense Of Time

Here's one of the BIGGEST differences between men and women when it comes to relationships.

While women unconsciously set "deadlines" for their casual relationships to evolve into more serious ones, men actually don't.

Keep this in mind from now on: MEN DON'T HAVE YOUR SENSE OF TIME IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

They won't commit to you simply because you've been dating for longer than you hoped.

They won't commit to you simply because it's Christmas.

And they won't commit to you simply because "Uncle Ben" or "Aunt May" keeps implying marriage every now and then over Thanksgiving Dinner.

So what DOES make a man commit?

The answer is simple -- HIMSELF.

A man has to be sure -- absolutely, completely sure -- that he wants to be in a more serious relationship with you.

A man has to know it in his mind, his heart, and his gut that he wants to settle down with you for the rest of his life.

And -- you guessed it -- he has to decide HIMSELF.

Here's where many women make yet another big mistake in their relationships. Many women think that if they tried hard enough, they could CONVINCE a man to commit to them.

If you could tell a man that committing to you would make him happy, and that a serious relationship would be more fun and fulfilling in the long run, he would have no reason NOT to propose to you, right?

Wrong!

I love this saying -- "You can't change a man unless he's in diapers."

It tells you that no matter how much you reason, plead, or nag, you can never DIRECTLY make a man commit to you.

He has to decide that for himself.

A Time for Everything

 ¹ There is a time for everything,
       and a season for every activity under heaven:

 ² a time to be born and a time to die,
       a time to plant and a time to uproot,

 ³ a time to kill and a time to heal,
       a time to tear down and a time to build,

 ⁴ a time to weep and a time to laugh,
       a time to mourn and a time to dance,

 ⁵ a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
       a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

 ⁶ a time to search and a time to give up,
       a time to keep and a time to throw away,

 ⁷ a time to tear and a time to mend,
       a time to be silent and a time to speak,

 ⁸ a time to love and a time to hate,
       a time for war and a time for peace.

What Makes A Woman Sexy?

 By "sexy," I'm not talking about
JUST being physically sexy...

SOME WOMEN ARE SEXIER THAN WE ARE

Sure, it can START things -- but it does
a terrible job at finishing it. If you
know of certain sexy, beautiful women
who always have bad relationships with
men, then you know what I mean.

Nope, you can't rely on your looks
alone. You'll have to be sexy in other
areas of your life, as well! Because
here's the solution to the problem:

IT'S WHAT HE DISCOVERS LATER THAT MAKES
HIM FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU!

I'm talking about being sexy in ALL
areas of your life.

Life's too short to be unattractive!
Here are a few tips to help you become a
little more sexy on the inside:

#1 - NO DRAMA, PLEASE

Let me ask you this: Since when did
drama become sexy?

-- it wastes his time, it doesn't get
you what you want, and it's downright
annoying. I'm pretty sure even the
little boys hate it!

By the way, it's important to define
drama NOT from OUR perspective, but from
the GUY'S perspective!

We might think "drama" consists of
harsh criticism, crying, and temper
tantrums.

But you know what? To a guy, even simple
RANTING qualifies as drama!

Yes, it's normal for us to rant. But NO,
it's NOT normal for us to rant to the
men in our lives!

It's probably okay once in a while, but
for maximum satisfaction, save the
ranting for your girlfriends.

So you basically have two choices. You
can choose to be whiny and dramatic,
totally dependent on your man for your
happiness.

Or you can choose to:

#2 - STAND ON YOUR OWN TWO FEET

Now I don't watch a lot of TV besides
the Discovery and History channels, but
I do watch certain soaps and crime shows
during my downtime.

And in most of my favorite shows, I've
noticed that the best, most likeable
female leads are strong, independent
women who can stand up for themselves.

I still think TV is one of the biggest
time-wasters in life today, which is why
I found it surprising to find something
USEFUL out of soap operas and crime
shows...

It's true -- independent women are SEXY!
It's absolutely attractive to a man when
he knows he doesn't have to babysit his
girlfriend all the time.

Sure, we like being spoiled once in a
while.

But it's NOT okay when it becomes a
habit or addiction! When you start
getting worried or angry when your
boyfriend doesn't call or text you more
than once a day, that's a bad sign!

So learn to stand on your own two feet.
The next time you feel like ranting,
complaining, or playing the blame game,
remember -- it's NOT sexy!

If you want to be truly sexy, don't
complain -- stand up and do something
about it!

And finally, here's my last "sexy"
tip for this newsletter:

#3 - DON'T STOP GROWING

Too many of us make the mistake of
wanting to "settle down."

It's fine to want a comfortable life,
but remember -- if you're TOO
comfortable, you might risk becoming
boring and predictable. And that's
something most real men don't want in
their life partners!

Real men always prefer having
interesting women as their partners
through life. They want a woman who
shares their passion for all things new.

That's why it's important to keep
growing as a person. It's important to
get SEXIER with time -- physically,
intellectually, and emotionally!

Ladies, I just gave you three tips on
how to be a little more sexy and sensual
to the men you meet.

But that's not all! There's more -- And that
is to continue to grow... I am saving more later Ladies!
Till next time....


Ciao,


Kimmy A.