Things that I've learned from spending Time alone

1. Self Discovery: Spending time alone gives you the ability to discover things about yourself and to get a real understanding of who you are.  We have grown to appreciate the art of getting to know others, but in reality, it is even more important to get to know ourselves, our preferences, our likes and dislikes without other people’s influences.
2. Higher Sense of Independence and Increased Self-Esteem: Being alone and getting comfortable with being alone gives you a higher sense of independence.  Relying on yourself to make choices and decisions increases your self confidence, which then permeates other aspects of your life, including the times you are in the presence of others.
3. No Need to Compromise: Often, we compromise when we are in the presence of others.  We usually work with one another to reach agreement on everything, from what we will have for dinner to what TV show to watch.  Spending time alone allows you to indulge yourself with the things you want to do and the things you love, without any negotiation.
4. Rejuvenation for Your Soul: Getting away from others allows you to decompress and relax.  It gives you a break from the have tos and allows you to focus on the want tos.  It lets you address your own needs as opposed to everyone elses and gives you the opportunity to rejuvenate and push the ‘restart’ button.
5. A Fresh Perspective: Time alone gives you the opportunity to clear your mind and to weed through a lot of thoughts.  This allows you to get to the heart of what YOU really think as opposed to being told or influenced by others and their opinions.  It gives you time to reflect on what is important in your life and how you feel about every day situations that need to be addressed.
6. Higher Appreciation for Those You Love: Giving yourself the ability to be alone allows you to have a greater appreciation for the time you spend with others.  If you never have time for yourself, you’ll wish you did.  It is important to find some balance in this; but once you do, you’ll enjoy your relationships even more. 

"God Has No Religion"

The reason why I am writing this is to justify my stand about God. Not necessarily to you. I might be just talking to myself. I am also glad I've read " The Shack" of W.M Paul Young which was handed to me by a friend after talking about religion.

I would say that I have a wide knowledge about God and wide relationship too. I will trace the roots with you. My Mom, I would say is a Roman Catholic and my Dad is a member of Iglesia ni Cristo (Church of God). They had contradicting views. 

Yes, I was also baptized twice. I had attended indoctrinations and I also went to a Catholic School from primary to university. In my teenage years, I also joined cell groups and attended the church for the protestant Christians.

The search for true religion had become a frustration to me until I stopped seeking but I continue believing. I believe there is someone out there who is very powerful, who is great, who is God. We call him in different names- Bathala, Anito,Anita, Bhagwaan,Buddha, Ek Onkar, Yaweh, Elohim, Guan Yu, Allah- to name a few. We know he is there, he is here...in our hearts. That's right! I have no religion, although I go to church to pray. I've been asking God so many questions that sometimes what is logic can never answer these questions.

I have family and friends who remain devoted to their religion. I appreciate them. They pray, sin, repent, sin, repent, sin, repent. Nothing is wrong with that. Some church goers have this mentality, I know you are familiar with this- "we are right, we are saved, we will go to heaven, outsiders will go to hell, The Creator doesn't love them-way of thinking." Right, I have come across those looks at many points in my life.

Going back to my point---God has no religion. He didn't build religion. He built relationships. He jump started love...unconditional love. Love my friend, is all it is. With love we develop faith, trust and honesty. Not difficult, right? Love! But you see, this is not easy for me. I have always loved with conditions. I have always loved with agenda in mind. I believe, this is going to change.

Lastly, even if you don't agree, God loves me. I can feel it in my bones. I can feel it in my heart. I don't need miracles from him to see that. It is clear to me. And his love has to be returned. I did say I have a WIDE relationship with The Almighty but it's going to be DEEP soon. This is a start, by believing that He loves me and I have all the capacity to love Him back.

what is the difference between Lust and Love?

Hi Guys,

I got loads of questions coming from my GFs asking what is the difference between Lust and Love. When one of my good friend asked me that question, I was paused for a while... So I decided to make a small research project about the difference between Lust and Love. And here they are : 

LUST

You are totally focused on his looks and body.

You don’t bother to return his calls and you can easily go for days without talking to him.

You only want to be with him to have sex.

You leave after sex [find easy ways].

LOVE

You have a great chemistry.You want to spend time with him.You see a future together.You introduce him to your family.You include him in your plans.He makes you want to be a better woman.

Three important points that distinguish love from lust:

The way it makes us feel The dynamics of our interaction The focus of our attention

LOVE - When your eyes meet across a crowded room. LUST - When your tongues meet across a crowded room.

 LOVE - When intercourse is called making love. LUST - When intercourse is called screwing.

LOVE -When he share everything he own. LUST - When he STEAL  everything you own.

LOVE - When it doesn’t matter if you don’t climax. LUST -When the relationship is over if you don’t climax.

LOVE - When HIS  heart flutters every time he see you. LUST - When his groin twitches every time he see you.

LOVE - When all the songs on the radio describe exactly how you feel. LUST - When all the songs on the radio determine how you do it.

LOVE -When breaking up is something you try not to think about. LUST -When staying together is something you try not to think about.

LOVE - When you’re only interested in doing things with your partner.LUST -When you’re only interested in doing things TO your partner. 

LOVE -When a rainy day means more time to stay inside and talk.LUST -When a rainy day means more time to stay inside and have sex.

LOVE - You only leave the house for coffee and doughnuts. LUST - You only leave the house for condoms and Vaseline.

Lust and love are separated by a very thin line. Therefore, it is important for you to be able to tell the difference in order to save you from wasting time presuming a relationship that is destined to fail.

The major difference between lust and love is that love is a selfless concern for another person, where lust is totally self-focused. 

This past few weeks, I've learned a lot of good lessons... I hope I enlighten you guys and I gave all the proper information to keep you going.. There's no good and bad in this world, believe me its a matter of choice. Believe in what you think is right and do what you think is best for you.

To Barbie,Thess and Emmy : Ten things that you don’t know about..

1.      I am one of those people in this world love you so much and would die for you.

2.      I am one one of some other people in this world love you in someway.

3.      The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

4.      A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.

5.      Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

6.      You mean the world to someone.

7.      If not for you, someone may not be living.

8.      You are special and unique.

9.      Someone that you don’t even know exists, loves you.

10.   When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look Because I am here for you.

Thank You For Being My Friend

Thank you for believing in me when I found it difficult to believe in myself... for saying what I've needed to hear sometimes, instead of what I've wanted to hear.... for siding with me.... and for giving me another side to consider. Thank you for opening yourself up to me.... for trusting me with your thoughts and disappointments and dreams.... for knowing you can depend on me and for asking my help when you've needed it. Thank you for putting so much thought and care and imagination into our friendship... for sharing so many nice times and making so many special memories with me. Thank you for always being honest with me... being kind to me... being there for me. Thank you for being a friend to me in so many meaningful ways.

I LOVE YOU

Ten Things That I've learned in Life....

1. I've learned
that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is
be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.

2. I've learned -
that it takes years to build up trust,
and only seconds to destroy it.

3. I've learned -
that it's not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts.

4. I've learned -
that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.

5. I've learned -
that no matter how thin you slice it,
there are always two sides.

6. I've learned -
that you should always leave
loved ones withloving words.
It may be the last time you see them.

7. I've learned -
that you can keep going
long after you think you can't.

8. I've learned -
that regardless of how hot and steamy
a relationship is at first,
the passion fades and there had better be
something else to take its place.

9. I've learned -
that learning to forgive takes practice.


10. I've learned -
that your life can be changed
in a matter of hours

by people who don't even know you.