How to Make Him Love You

Today, we'll talk about the 4 buttons
you'll need to push to make a man want
you, even if you're only talking for the
first time or sitting down for your
first date.


After all, it's the first impression
that lasts the longest -- let's make it
count!


Here we go with Button #1:


BUTTON #1 - LOOKING GOOD FOR HIM


Ever heard of the phrase, "A picture
paints a thousand words?"


That's very true, especially in the
dating game!


The first "picture" he sees of you --
that's when he sees you for the first
time -- will "talk" to him long before
you actually say your first words to
him!


You don't have to look the best, by the
way -- just look the best you can
possibly be.


BUTTON #2 - BE A FIRST-RATE VERSION OF
YOURSELF


Here's another interesting button to
push...


In the real world, men are used to the
usual fakery that comes in the dating
game and the Internet.


They've met their fair share of women
who lie about their age, their jobs,
their plans for the future, etc., just
to be loved.


But if you present yourself as YOURSELF
-- with absolutely nothing to hide, and
nothing to be ashamed of -- then it's a
breath of fresh air for him!


It might actually catch him by surprise,
leaving him wondering if you're "for
real!"


All of a sudden, he's not going to see
you as a "one-night-stand" girl, but a
possible partner for the long term.


And if he's ready for a real
relationship, he's going to stick around
and try to find out!


BUTTON #3 - BELIEVE IN YOURSELF


Sure, you may not be the richest girl on
the block.


You may not be the prettiest or the
sexiest, and you may not know too much
about fashion.


That's okay!


You'll need a "secret weapon."


This "secret weapon" is actually the
great equalizer in the dating game.


With it, you don't have to be the
richest, prettiest, sexiest, or smartest
girl around -- but you'll still make the
men around you WANT YOU all to
themselves.


What is this "great equalizer?"


You might be surprised -- it's actually
very simple.


It's CONFIDENCE!


Ever noticed how the most confident men
out there are also the most attractive?


It doesn't seem to matter if they're not
the tallest, richest, or best-looking --
their confidence literally BECKONS to
you to come closer and say "Hi!"


Well, guess what? It works both ways!


Men ALSO zoom into women who are strong,
confident, and independent.


They like being with a woman who can
take care of herself -- after all, it's
a lot more fun to have a
"low-maintenance" girlfriend than one
who BEGS for their support!


So when you're not ashamed of yourself
-- when you're confident enough to just
go out there and NOT care what other
people think of you -- it's a major
plus!


It pushes all the right buttons on the
men you meet. When men know you're
living a fabulous life, you can bet
they'll want to be a part of it!


BUTTON #4 - JUST HAVE FUN


During first dates, many of us make the
mistake of wondering, "Is he the one?"


And we end up becoming a nervous wreck
throughout the date, making sure we're
saying and doing all the right things,
making sure he'll LIKE us.


Of course, that never works. Men aren't
dumb, and they can tell you're putting
on a show.


So don't make the mistake -- just lay
back, have fun, and focus on having a
great time with him.


Talk!


Listen!


Tease!


Joke!


Flirt!


If you keep things light and fun for
him, he's going to be VERY interested in
a second date!


Here's the sad statistic -- whenever you
date a new single guy, chances are he's
not ready to handle a real relationship.
(There are more players than
boyfriend-material guys out there, after
all.)


So don't focus on the "future" -- just
make the most out of the "now!"


When he realizes he absolutely LOVES
spending time with you, he might
actually MAN UP for you -- and start
courting. Congratulations!


Ladies, I just taught you four of the
most important buttons to push in the
men you meet. These buttons are meant to
turn them from being UNINTERESTED to
being VERY INTERESTED indeed! So Goodluck! :D

I'll see you soon

I really love this song so much it reminds me of something that I went through. I lost my trust to someone that I trusted a lot but I know I never should have. Now, its too late for me to get him back. I've learned my lesson.... but its sad that it needs to go through like this...

I've learned that I need to hold on to what I believed in to stay happy, I dont know if that's right but that is something that I've found out... but its too late. You have the power to choose weather you like and stay happy or be realistic and embrace the reality of bitterness and truth.

I've learned that the only thing to be happy is to stay in the present, dont look at the past or the future but stay right in the present.

I've learned that sometimes we need to be blind folded if we wants to stay happy and eliminate those negative thoughts that going your way....

I've learned that in just one mistake we can lose the one we love for the rest of our lives...

I got so much things to learn and im glad I am growing and  getting stronger everytime I face a situation like this... I never regret anything and everything that happened. I am very thankful that there are more people who actually brought more joy and happiness in my life than those who brought pain and heartaches.

I am Liberal

I was raised a conservative and held conservative views for quite a while. However, I also have a rebellious side that always wants to break away from restrictive rules and societal norms, and seek freedom. Over time that side of me won and I now have more liberal views mostly on social issues.

As a conservative I was very uptight about things and sometimes got upset when I saw people behave in ways that were not acceptable to society. Now I'm very open minded, relaxed, tolerant, patient, and fun loving.

I'm all about enjoying life. I tend to disregard societal taboos and rules which serve no purpose other than to impose the views and beliefs of the majority. So I'm a social liberal and live a carefree lifestyle that would fit into the term Bohemian although I'm not an artist. I believe you should be able to do anything you like as long as you don't hurt others or yourself. However, as you should realize, that takes a lot of personal responsibility.

Just to give a couple of examples; to me it's cool to dress like a hippie,go barefoot, wear a nose string or get a tattoo etc. but what about doing drugs or having multiple sexual partners? Before engaging in any of those, you should ask the question: will your behavior harm yourself or other people? And you should think long term too.

There is one area where I'm still conservative, and that's when it comes to protecting myself, my family, and my country. Although I'm tolerant, I have no sympathy for terrorists, mass murderers, child or spouse abusers, and the likes.

Note: all the above are MY views based on MY experiences. Yours may be different and that's fine. No one can always agree on everything and that's cool!

Again, this is not all about politics, so when I use the terms liberal and conservative I'm not necessarily referring to the political parties. So keep that in mind as you voice your opinions below.

“It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day-to-day basis” ~ Margaret Bonnano

I am so tired of love stories that don't end with "happily ever after". I know that everyone says that's something made up by Disney, it never happens, blah, blah, blah . . . but if we all know it's not realistic and it's not going to happen to us, what's the harm in reading about it?

I finally read Gone With the Wind. I know, it's so weird that I had never read it before. In fact, maybe I have and I just forget? No matter. The point is, I LOVED it. It was a wonderful book. It pulled me in and I couldn't put it down. I haven't had that sort of relationship with a new book in a very long time. It was wonderful. I tried to read as slow as I could so that the feeling could last.

***don't read further if you plan to read this book***

Although Scarlett's life was full of disappointed love and fruitless marriages, I remained convinced that in the end all would work out and she would live happily ever after. After all, Gone with the Wind is known for being a wonderful epic romance. But in the end, Scarlett is left ALONE. She finally realizes she's in love Rhett, after he no longer gives "a damn". I know it's supposed to end upliftingly with the last lines "After all, tomorrow is another day." but that's not the point! It's supposed to be a romance. No one cares that Scarlett is going to be able to live her life alone, we want her to get together with Rhett! The only thing that kept me reading was the hope that one day she would realize she loved Rhett and they would like happily ever after!

After a month, I decided to give romance another try with Forever Amber. Published 8 years after Gone With the Wind, it was not quite as gripping, but still highly entertaining and followed a similar pattern. Girl is young and falls in love with man. Convinces herself she's in love with him, and spend rest of book trying to be with him. Not remembering my past disappointment, I read on, concluding that in the end, Amber would end up with Bruce. But it never happened. Not only did the book not bring Amber and Bruce into the realm of happily ever after, I got the feeling that the book never actually ended! It's as if Kathleen Winsor simply got tired of writing so she stopped.

Well, enough ranting and raving. I actually would recommend both those novels highly. Just not to anyone looking for romance in their lives.

30 Things you dont know about me

01. I hate being late.

02. I'm not much of a cook, but I make the best french fries.

03. I can't stand getting into arguments or being around people who argue all  the time.

04. I like to shower at least twice a day.

05. I am a bit sensitive.

06. I supposed to live to Japan when I was a teen ager.

07. I'm a bit of a hypochondriac.

08. I was a Cheerleader when I was in HS.

09. I am one of the boys. I grew up with mostly guys around me.

10. Boats are my least favorite form of transportation.

11. I love to collect perfumes.

12. I do not enjoy shopping with my mom.

13. I love to draw and Paint.

14. Sometimes I wish I could have alcohol and cigar , but I know that's no longer an  option for me.

15. I cannot stand organized religion.

16. I have the capacity to love unconditionally.

17. I'm addicted to exercise and diet since I hate feeling overweight.

18. I have more men friends than women friends.

19. My stress reliever is singing.

20. I'm fascinated by conspiracy theories.

21. I spend most of my free time singing or dancing.

22. I am a shy type person. (For real)

 23. My favorite city is Portofino, Italy.

24. I have a blurry vision.

25. I suffer from terrible stage fright.

26. Im a big fan of Marilyn Monroe.

27. I love to design my own clothes.

28. I always update my looks every after 3 months.

29. My Dad was pushing me to be a Pilot or be part of an Airforce.

30. When I was a kid I love extreme adventures like jumping off the creek, running on 10ft. wall, climbing trees and climbing Electrical Transmission.

Goodbye My Dearest Friend

© Leilani Hermosa Petersen

The hardest part of any friendship
is when it is time to say goodbye,
and even though I wished I could make you stay,
I know I got to let you spread your wings and fly.

For life is a journey that needs to be travelled
and I am certain you'd make it through,
I just want you to know and never forget
that I will surely miss you.

So follow your heart and never give up,
as dreams and wishes do come true,
for I know that someday we'll meet again,
so never forget I will be praying for you.

How to Tell If He's Into You

Like most women, you probably want to
know if a guy is interested in you or
not at all.  It takes a lot to muster up
the courage to approach guys and ask
them directly how they feel and most
women would rather keep their feelings
to themselves  than confess and get
rejected.


However if you can no longer hide your
feelings and want to know if he feels
the same way too, you can do your own
love test to find out if the guy is into
you.


This article will be discussing some of
the things that guys do to let girls
know how they truly feel.


He Likes Spending Time With You:


A guy is totally into you if he prefers
to spend time with you rather than going
out to an all-night drinking session
with his buddies.


He will take every chance possible to
spend every minute by your side.  This
is his way of telling you than he likes
being with you and you are important to
him.


So if you don't have plans for Friday
night, you can invite him to see a movie
or check out the newly-opened restaurant
near your area.  You can also rent some
movies and have a DVD marathon in your
place.


He Enjoys Talking to You


Guys enjoy talking to girls they like.


If a guy is interested in you, he will
find a way to get your number so he can
call you and talk to you.


He may even befriend one of your pals
just so he could ask for your number.


He will always find time to talk to you
even with his busy schedule.


He Remembers the Little Things  About
You


Most guys have short attention span.


If a guy remembers you telling him once
that you used to be afraid of closet
monsters when you were a kid or
something irrelevant as having your
first real haircut when you were seven
years old, then he must be really into
you.


You can keep on talking to guys for
hours and they would only digest some or
only the things that catch their
attention.


However if he a guy remembers tiny
details about you, then he really is
interested in you.  It means that he is
attentive to everything you say and
actually listens to you without being
forced to.


He Does Things he Won't Normally Do


A guy who wants to impress the girl he
likes will do things he won't normally
do.


He helps you with some of your after
school work such as arranging books in
the library or photocopying reference
materials and admits that he has never
done it before.


He enrolls in a cooking class because he
finds out you like cooking.


He attends weekend volunteer group
activities with you and your pals just
so he could spend Saturday afternoons
with you.


If the guy will go to such lengths as
doing stuffs he won't normally do, then
you're in for a treat.  The guy is
totally into you.


He is Interested to Meet your Family


Most guys shy away when it comes to the
idea of meeting the girl's family.


It's like a nerve-wracking experience
that they'd rather avoid or delay for as
long as they can.


However if a guy is interested in
meeting your family then it is a good
sign.  It means that he wants to get to
know the people who are part of your
life too.


This gesture can mean that he is serious
in knowing everything about you.


If he wants to meet your family then you
can bring him along the next time you
visit your family.


If he gets along well with them, then
you have nothing to worry at all.


Contrary to what most women believe,
guys are similar to girls and are also
hard to figure out.


With guys, you have to be observant if
you want to know how they feel because
they don't usually go confessing their
love every time.


Guys also fear rejection.


They are also shy when it comes to
confessing their feelings.


It is important for girls to know that
guys much rather prefer to show their
feelings through action and will stick
to it until they have enough courage to
confess their love.